Anxious Attachment Therapy for Adults in New York
Does this sound like you?
Anxious attachment often shows up in quiet but emotionally exhausting ways.
You might feel intensely preoccupied with your relationships, worrying that someone you care about is pulling away, losing interest, or about to leave. Small changes in tone, texts, or plans can feel high-stakes, leaving you hyperaware or afraid you’ve done something wrong without realizing it.
You may constantly replay conversations, seek reassurance, or overanalyze interactions for signs of rejection. Even when things seem stable on the surface, it can be hard to relax, trust the connection, or stop anticipating distance or abandonment.
You’re not broken — your nervous system is responding to perceived threat.
Anxious attachment isn’t a flaw in your personality or a sign that something is “wrong” with you. It’s a learned threat response shaped by past relationship experiences, uncertainty, and your mind’s attempt to protect you from rejection or abandonment when connection feels at risk.
Therapy focuses on helping your mind and body relearn safety in relationships and build a stronger sense of security — not forcing reassurance or telling you to “just stop worrying.”
What anxious attachment actually is
At its core, anxious attachment is a fear of losing connection, being rejected, or being left by someone important to you. This often shows up as worries about changes in tone, texts, plans, or closeness that might signal distance or disinterest. You may become overly focused on how the relationship feels, constantly monitoring interactions and scanning for signs that something is wrong.
It’s common to replay conversations long after they’re over, second-guess what you said or did, or doubt whether you’re actually secure. You might feel unusually hyperaware and wonder if someone is pulling away or if the relationship is about to change in a painful way.
How Therapy Helps
Feel calmer and more grounded in your relationships
Spend less time overthinking interactions or fearing someone is pulling away
Respond to uncertainty without assuming rejection or abandonment
Approach closeness, communication, or conflict with greater confidence
Reduce catastrophic thinking and build a more balanced inner voice
Trust your relationships instead of constantly seeking reassurance
Experience connection as secure and manageable rather than driven by fear
